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Emily Stulman Klein of Live a Joyful Life on Marital Success

#HipNJ has teamed up with Emily Stulman Klein, founder of Live a Joyful Life, to help women  be successful in their marriages.

The following comes directly from Klein, and we hope it can inspire you today!

Getting married is EASY!  There are magazines, websites, books, shops, trained professionals, a millions resources to support you on your journey. From special bridal bootcamp yoga so your biceps will rock in your sleeveless gown to your very own wedding planner who will run your day with marine like precision, sporting everything from breath mints to black socks and everything in between.  Millions of women before you have walked in your white satin shoes.  And while some things have changed over time, themes, destinations, wedding for a cause, eco friendly, all in all, GETTING married is easy.
 
Your role is clear and defined, blushing bride, resplendent in white.  You’ve selected with care the venue, the rings, the honeymoon. You’ve choreographed everything from the entry music to the morning after brunch, without skipping a beat.  But when you return from exploring Marrakesh or hiking in Machu Picchu or lolling around your private bungalow in Bora Bora the real adventure begins. Your adorable fiancé is now your very real, ’til death do us part, sidekick for life.
 
The big question is no longer, “Will you marry me?”. That’s old news. The current and significantly more important query is “Now what, and how are we going to do this without getting completely lost in the process?”
 
At first, it’s fun, great even. The life of a newlywed is divine.  Husband, check. career, check-check, dual incomes, check-check-check.  You retain your identity, along with the newly minted “wife” title. You still have girls night, client meetings, all the parts of life that nourish and belong to you and you alone, in addition to the married couple world you’ve entered.  It’s the two of you against the world.  It’s terribly romantic.  You can’t even imagine what they were talking about when they said marriage was hard. Then one day, it hits you like a ton of bricks.
 
Usually it’s when you start a family, especially if you are “lucky enough” to give up that career of yours and stay home.  There is something about parenting that magnifies all the things you thought you talked about when you were planning your life together, if you had the cursory talk about what that would look like.  Then one day you open your mouth and your mother comes out. You close it horrified, looking around to see if anyone heard. Where did THAT come from, you wonder.
 
Each of you has your own blueprints and ideas about what married life will look like, and who will do what and then one day you’re home watching Elmo for the eleven millionth time in a row and he’s late because he’s stuck in traffic and you think “Shoot! What I wouldn’t give to be stuck in traffic, alone” and you find yourself jealous, angry, overwhelmed, unsatisfied. The thing you want more than anything in the world is 5 minutes to go to the bathroom by yourself and you think, “This is NOT what I signed up for”. Actually, it’s exactly what you signed up for, but it doesn’t have to be that way, I promise.
 
Enter, the pre-marital vision statement. It doesn’t sound very sexy but hear me out. It is, a wonderful, loving strategy to a happy and supportive life together. Some couples pre-marital tactic is the prenup, which by definition presupposes that the marriage won’t last. Insert sad / angry / bewildered emoji.  The vision statement, by contrast pre-supposes that you will be tested at times but rather than taking your marbles and going home, you will have a written reminder that you created together that focuses on the whys and vision of your marriage.
 
Creating such a document takes courage. Before the “I dos” is the time to bare your souls, tell the truth and really listen to what your partner says. Before “Will you marry me?” or immediately following, is the time to brainstorm, to dream, to envision your life together. It is not that single question at all, but a series. “Do you see me? Do you know me? Who are you? What do you believe? What do you value? Do you have my back? Have you shown me your soft, white, warty underbelly?  Have I shown you mine?” And when the terror of being seen has gone away because you have left it all on the table, then together you create your vision statement, based on freedom, not fear. And when you hit those rocky patches, and you will, and you’ll be ready.
 
Emily Stulman Klein, founder of Live a Joyful Life (www.liveajoyfullife.com) is a trust and authenticity expert. She believes in a world where every woman is happy, brave, fulfilled and free and that life is magical when we live it authentically.  She works with perfect women masquerading as imperfect wives and moms to to reclaim their authentic selves and co-create lives of impact and meaning.  To book time with Emily or to get help with your pre-marital vision statement, email her at emily@liveajoyfullife.com.
Winter Wonderland Wedding

Have a Winter Wonderland Wedding in #HipNJ!

Make your wedding magical this holiday season with #HipNJ’s favorite festive wedding venues!

Nanina’s in the Park

 

T H R E E 👰🏼✨🤵🏻 #withhallmylove

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All year round, Nanina’s in the Park in Belleville provides beautiful picturesque setting with top notch service and food (that sauce!) But there’s a special sort of magic when this historic venue is all dressed up for the holidays.

Clarks Landing Yacht Club

Nestled in Point Pleasant, Clarks Landing Yacht Club offers a romantic, sophisticated, seaside setting for a wedding celebration. One happy guest writes: It is the perfect spot for views of the water. Elegant atmosphere as soon as you step inside. Very classy. Service is spot on. Superb attention to details when it comes to taking care of all guests.


The venue offers a special Winter Wonderland package that makes for a magical and elegant wedding!


“Absolutely stunning. Have never experienced a happy hour as amazing as this. The whole evening was like a fairytale,” a pleased reviewer writes.


Clarks Landing Yacht Club is located at 847 Arnold Avenue, Point Pleasant, NJ 08742. It is conveniently located 1 mile away from the beach and oceanfront.

The Mill Lakeside Manor

The Mill Lakeside Manor is an absolutely beautiful place for wedding couples to start their new lives together. It is located at 101 Old Mill Rd, Spring Lake Heights, NJ 07762.

The outside is gorgeously lit with lights. The venue has exceptional views of the natural and picturesque Old Mill Pond.

A happy couple writes: “Our guests are still raving that it was the best wedding that they have ever attended! From the beautiful ceremony, to the amazing cocktail hour, to the delicious dinner, The Mill exceeded our expectations!”

The Hamilton Manor

Krista + Johnny | October 17, 2017

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The Hamilton Manor sits on 25 beautiful protected wooded acres with a landscaped gazebo, perfect for an outdoor wedding ceremony and photos. Their newest addition, The Rustic Barn, is a magnificent covered and landscaped area complete with a bar with cathedral ceilings perfect for cocktail hour.

“The Hamilton Manor is rustic, yet elegant at the same time…We had our ceremony in the barn and it was absolutely beautiful. All of our guests are still raving about the ambiance of the barn and how gorgeous our ceremony was.”

Have a happy holiday wedding season, #Hippers!

Pokemon Go and a Jeter Wedding: Weekend Recap

Just because the holiday weekend has passed doesn’t mean that #NJ isn’t, well, hip anymore! The #GardenState had nothing short of awesome things happening throughout. See what went down and who stirred things up this weekend in our weekly weekend recap.

Friday, July 8th, 2016

Earlier in the week, Pokemon Go was released on the app store. In the game, virtual Pokemon appear through the player’s smartphone camera and are to be captured and trained by the player. The fever over this new twist in the international franchise made its way to New Jersey this weekend as people of all ages indulged in this new virtual reality.

In probably the most adorable of news, the state revealed to the public that the senate recently passed a bill that requires all pet stores in New Jersey to sell only dogs that originate from animal shelters or rescues. The bill seeks to battle the issue of the abundance of puppy mills throughout the nation. Next, the bill will go to the assembly, where a debate will ensue.

Saturday, July 9th, 2016

Canadian superstar Justin Bieber made his stratospheric comeback with Purpose, his latest album, after a few unfortunate clashes with the media and he’s celebrating it with the Purpose World Tour. The show hit the Prudential Center in Newark on Saturday night. With singles like “Sorry” and “Love Yourself,” it’s hard not to learn to be a #Belieber again. The media loves a bad boy, right?

Saturday marked day two of the The Vampire Diaries Official Convention at the Hilton Parsippany. Fans in attendance had the opportunity to actively engage in the fictitious world of the popular show all weekend. Perhaps the most exciting and highly anticipated part of the convention was a celebrity appearance by Ian Somerhalder, one of the show’s main stars.

Ian Somerhalder!!!!!!!!! #TVDNJ ❤️❤️❤️

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While it may have been a sad day for the ladies, it was certainly a happy day for Derek Jeter as he tied the knot with girlfriend and model Hannah Davis on Saturday. Jeter, the Pequannock Township-born professional baseball shortstop, and Davis chose the small ceremony route and wed in Napa, California.

Sunday, June 10th, 2016

Old Bridge native and elite gymnast Laurie Hernandez didn’t hesitate to wow the audience and the rest of the young gymnasts watching nationwide at the gymnastics Olympic Trials in San Jose, California. In her first year as a senior gymnast, she was named to the team for the Rio de Janeiro Olympics on Sunday night at 16 years old. She finished well ahead of many of her elders, earning herself gymnastics superstardom.

Young Australian rock band 5 Seconds of Summer proved that they can keep up with the other biggest boy bands in the world on Sunday. Currently in its North American leg and in support of Sounds Good Feels Good, the band’s latest album, the Sounds Live Feels Live World Tour arrived in Holmdel at none other than the PNC Bank Arts Center.

I love playing to you. Thank you for this evening Holmdel, New Jersey, we had 12,000 strong tonight xx

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